People seem to be confused between disagreement and judgement.
Disagreement is ‘lack of consensus or approval’. Judgment is an ‘opinion or conclusion’, most of the based on said disagreement.
Most people are much too invested in the approval of others, and when the actions they make are not favored by others, they feel judged. But there is a difference between disagreement and judgement.
As demonstrated very clearly today, especially in our country’s divide in politics as of late, people disagree. It’s natural and even healthy.How boring would it be if everyone agreed and no one had a second opinion. Snoozeville, am I right?
When we let said disagreements affect our opinions of others and their lifestyle, that is where we run into a problem. This becomes judgement and this can also lead to hate or resentment. For whatever reason, we humans can let something like religious, political or personal beliefs alter the way we see others around us. Everyone handles their own beliefs differently. Some people are more outspoken about what they are against while others are more private. Some people will judge others internally but never speak it aloud, while others will loudly declare who and what they judge the most. We need to train our mind to accept others before jumping to a formed opinion about them.
I love this verse in regards to judgement. “And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among us be the first to throw a stone at her.” John 8:7 ESV.
Jesus was defending a women whom the Pharisees condemned to death. This woman was caught in the act of adultery. The Pharisees wanted to test Jesus, and Jesus responded with John 8:7. How are we to judge someone when we are full of sins as well.
In a world that is constantly changing and becoming increasingly sensitive to other’s need of approval, how can we become less judgmental?
First things first we need to understand that there is a difference between disagreement and judgement. It is alright to disagree on a certain matter that your peers agree with. It is alright to have a different opinion. This does not make someone a bad person for having a different view point. We need to accept this and move on.
Romans 14:1 “As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions.”
We must realize that there is also a difference between acceptance and approval.
We don’t have to agree with a person in order to accept them. We need to stop creating these artificial divides that will only further hinder us as a community.
“All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never cast out.” John 6:37 ESV.
Jesus will never cast us out,nor shall we cast each other out.